When night falls....

Lenghty post

As i was walking out the train just now, i happened to see a couple hugging each other.
Yea, nothing special, you will get to see this anywhere if you walk with your eyes open.
But what really caught my attention wasn't the fact that they were hugging but what caught my attention was their size, they were both, not very skinny.
And the intial thought that came to mind was;
"Aiya, sure not true love"
And that is it, i had just sterotyped.
Then, after much thought, i started to look at myself.... not very skinny either.
Although its a undeniable fact that has been affecting me pretty much over the years, but strangely, at that point of time, that thought never really cross my mind.
And that was why, i began to deepen and that point of pondering leads me to think many other things which i shall share with your as follow.

It makes me realize that its no longer just, "its not very good to sterotype, you are being unfair to that particular group".
Its now even more,, to an extend that its causing our life to be even more complex.

To take me for example, that " aiyah, sure not true love" sterotype, literally change my pespective towards love as a whole because the reason why do i really think that way is because I think that people will just settle down for people of the same standard, often left with no choice, or out of desperation and that causes me to want to break free from that thinking.
Which frankly, it drifted me further away from the point of finding someone you love, and now introducing many other different factors which is not necissary in the first place.
Its kinda hard to understand and even harder for me to elaborate but to put in simply.
If its me, if i ever come across a person i have interest in, and that person happen to be the same size as me. hahahha, i will probably ask myself whether is it out of desperation, and that i am just trying to find someone to love, and that is why i am just grabbing anyone that comes by at that moment.
And if i ever consider the sterotype that as stated above, i will probably give up because i trust that my sterotype is valid and leads to think its true, and that nothing will come out of the relationship because, its....not what i wanted.?

The point here is, that sterotype is no longer just being unfair to the group, its affecting my judgement as well.

The sterotype is wrong in the first place, does that mean that two not very good looking people, when get together, simply equates that they are just desperate?(ah, and that leads to another sterotype yet again)
It goes the same to two very good looking people getting into a relationship. Birds of the same feather must flock together? must that sterotype determine that society today?
And yet another sterotype that when a good looking person and a not so good looking person, must that then, be true love? Why can't it be out of sympathy?
Now, its making love even more complex.
And thus, affecting our judgement, our belief and our lifes and making already hard to decide sitution, harder.
Don't tell me you hasn't stared at the above mentioned couples, and making comments about them before.(oh look i am sterotyping again)
(I know, this argument is going nowhere, because either ways, its all so wrong, and nothing is coming out from this.)

And to elaborate on my point with another illustration, say, if you see a girl dressing skimply on the streets today, you will probably think that she's an ah lian, and whatever thing that comes to your mind.
You go home, and realises that, she's your son's girlfriend, or your daughter's friend, i suppose i need not have to elaborate further on what you will do.
And probably, start making your son and daughter's life difficult because you are afraid that they will end up like the girl, now that you know that they are in bad company.
Which prove my point that you are now doing unnecssary things that that birthed off from your sterotype.

And and and, many many more sterotypes that causes us to do things which wasn't meant to be in the first place.
Like, you see a two bangladeshies holding hands, you avoid them.
You think that people who have good results, rich and good looking, you avoid them.
All china person are loud, you hate them.
AH, people who wear black, long messy hair, walk with head facing down, are emos, you run away.
And lastly, and most commonly seen these days, if you child don't study, you will fail in life, then parents starts stressing their kid and kids get stress thus causing stressed parents, even more stress, it goes in a circle.
Its kind of becoming part of our life already.
Frankly, I am a sterotyper, i sterotype whenever, and whatever, just give me a cue, i will be able to retrieve a sterotype, and they are really bad.
But now, i think i should restructure my views towards things again.

The point here is, next time you wanna decide on something, consider the fact that it might be a decision that birth off from a sterotype that you have.
Its no longer just happy happy sterotype only ok... you are making your life revolving around it.

But i also believe lah, all of the above sterotypes can be good in a way.
Because at least, they give you a mind on your own, without sterotypes, a society will probably be dead and boring, because everyone thinks the same.

Hahahahaha, if you are still reading at this point, you are awesome.
Its not hard to digest what i have mentioned above, neither is it hard to agree upon.
But you see, its my ponders, and its kind of messy, the points are all over the place,


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And to you, i hope that you are feeling ok, thou i know that you are not, because i know if you have really loved, you will feel that same amount of pain that inflicted back onto you as well.
You probably won't know it, and which either case, probably too egoistic to admit it or don't think its worth kicking up a fuss about, and i don't wanna go own asking you already.
But i believe, you are definitely much stronger, and when it comes to moving on, you are darn good at it.
Whatever it is, what i have said, are not just comforting words to comfort you, but i really do mean every single thing that i have said.
Hahahaha, I don't normally know how to comfort a guy you see...
Whatever it is, i will be supporting you all the way!!
But please, don't be so egoistic and don't ever think that crying and getting sad is an symbolisation that you are weak.
I have seen guys cry before, you bet. hahaha.
You might not find what i have said through lah, but i am truely concern, and thats my 2 cent worth of advise.:D


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Randoms, i think there's a couple of things that i am gonna talk about pretty soon....


And lastly, bear called, and she wanted to do my performance review..
But she started asking about my studies, which makes me find it doubly hard to tell her that i wanna quit.
I just couldn't tell her, because i felt that guilt striking me.